When was the last time you felt the joy of having a new lover in your life? Even if you are in a monogamous relationship or single, can you ignite the Spring Fever in yourself?
Spring is a time of renewal and every one of us needs to feel renewed in heart, body, mind, spirit and soul. The fastest way to awaken one-self is to love another like it is the first time.
There is a deep desire to spend time in each other’s arms, resting with gentle talk after a good love making session. Do you still feel that with your significant other? Do you long for that if you are single? Do you send a text sharing your day as you traverse the slopes of life? This person makes your day a little bit better. You smile inside when you see their name on your phone. It may be a word or two “Thinking of You” or sharing of a daily event that needs to be interrupted by love talk.
Did you know your soul hungers to be awakened into passion and deep longing? Love is the thing that poets have written about since always. In “The Prophet” by Kahlil Gibran, 1883 – 1931, he speaks about love.
When you love you should not say, “God is in my heart,” but rather, “I am in the heart of God.”
And think not you can direct the course of love, for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself.
But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires;
To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
To know the pain of too much tenderness
To be wounded by your own understanding of love:
And to bleed willingly and joyfully
To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving.
To love needs to be an act of power. One does not fall in love. One chooses to love. To love as an act of power is to consciously allow another into your inner most world. To speak with honesty and caring though your words at times may be difficult to hear the honest response touches deeply.
How do you keep such a passionate love alive in a long term relationship? You need to choose to love the other daily. Choose to make amends, to apologize, to grow into the next phase of your relationship. It may look very different then how it began. When you cannot accept the changes taking place with your partner, you are killing your relationship. When you stop yourself from growing and exploring all the possibilities life has to offer, you are smoothing your relationship and putting the fire out. Yes, you are not only putting out your sexual fire you are putting out your soul’s fire. For the soul has come into this physical form to grow and learn and rejoice in the beauty of being a sacred sexual human being.
When you are dying inside for lack of intimacy, passion, touching and sexual expression you are dying on the outside too. The person you are fooling is yourself. Spring in our beautiful desert is blooming. Are you in the winter of life folding into yourself becoming less than who you desire to be or are you ready to spring forth and discover your passion for life and living?
It matters not if you are in a monogamous relationship, a committed open relationship, in an alternative lifestyle or single. What matters is that life is precious. Your life matters. Loving and being loved, having the freedom to express your sacred sexuality is how Great Spirit intended us to be. This is assuming authority, taking responsibility and being spiritual accountable.
Create the life you desire. Speak your truth to those close to you. Make agreements that honor you and your partners needs and desires. If you do not have a partner and are ready to step into that journey for the first time or again then stop messing around and create it. Keep yourself open. You may be surprised to discover magick can happen.
Ina “Laughing Winds” Mlekush M.F.C.C
Marriage, Relationship & Sex Counselor a.a.c.e.c.t. certified